Welcome to my lifestyle blog, where I will be writing primarily about sex. Because I love sex. I love having sex with my husband, and when we’re not having sex, I love to think about it. Please don’t misunderstand me — I don’t go around thinking arousing thoughts all day, and I’m not a pervert.
I’m a woman in my late thirties. I’m considered attractive by the general population in a toned, petite sort of way that some even find cute and sexy. I am educated and nobly employed. I am a wife and a mom, a daughter and a sister.
When I want to bring my mind to its happy place, it goes to sex. I am interested in talking about it with others. I like to ponder the psychology of sex and relationships. I like to learn about sex throughout history and across our modern world. Plus, I like to share my own silly, sexy stories. Hence, this blog.
I’ve been interested in sex since I first learned about it. Isn’t that true for everyone? What perhaps makes me unique is that I met my soulmate at age seventeen. I met the person that I am most psychologically, philosophically, and physically connected to in the world before I could vote. I have been exploring sex in an intimate, safe, faithful relationship for over twenty years now. From my college thesis on sexuality in literature to our annual nude-beach vacations, sex is always on my brain.
My life is full of love and activity. Jack and I quickly married after college graduation, and four kids followed in the next ten years. We are both full time career professionals, and when we are not working we are preparing meals, chauffeuring children, and trying to stay one step ahead in our game of Midwestern suburban life.
We do work fun into our schedule; we hike, kayak, play cards and board games, take the dog on walks, visit museums and parks, watch movies, read books, and visit with family and friends. We smoke cannabis regularly but rarely have more than a glass of wine. We schedule sex for a minimum of three nights a week, and our repertoire has grown to include some kink, bondage, and tantra. We recently created a profile on a lifestyle website in hopes of making some new friends. I am most definitely bicurious, probably even bisexual. But, you know, labels. Ugh.
I’m an introvert, but I’m not shy. I abhor small talk. The ongoing monologues in my brain are inspiring at best, overwhelming on average, and depressing or anxiety-inducing at their worst. Most of the time, I simply want to stay home and enjoy my family, but if I’m home too much I get restless. I ache to do something that matters, to make true, deep connections with people both inside and outside my home.
Sometimes we get together with friends, but often we end those evenings a bit disappointed that the conversation was mostly about superficial, surface-level topics. It’s hard to find friends who are as open and honest as we are, particularly in regards to our favorite topics of sex, relationships, religion, philosophy, and psychology. Most of our friends, both old and new, do not share our interests; most tend to blush or balk when we merely allude to our sexual adventures. I admit that I feel judged poorly when I cross the TMI line or when I bring up the topic of sex on yet another occasion.
This blog is, in part, my cry for camaraderie. I come alive when discussing sex. On the rare occasion that I find a friend who loves sex as much as I do, it’s fun conversation. There is lots of laughter, but there are also deep thoughts and connections. Maybe a little flirting.
I’ve always enjoyed writing, but too often I would get stumped on what to write about. Writer’s block certainly takes the fun out of writing. I am actually a published writer several times over. But those pieces, they were all assigned topics. There was no joy and passion in my writing, and no soul. They weren’t art — writing for the sake of introspection and connection simultaneously.
My husband likes to call himself my muse. It’s annoying when he says it, but it is true. He’s a large part of the reason I love sex so much, and he was the one who encouraged me to write about this stuff in the first place. When my mind needs stimulation, I talk to him, and through him I mold my ideas. By him, I am inspired to pursue my passion in my short time on this wonderful earth. It is time for me to write what I know, and let my truth be told. I am a woman who has a great many thoughts about sex. Not sure if they’re great thoughts, but they’re mine. Welcome to my saucy spot on the web.